Exclusive Content:

Bias Unveiled: How Politics and Media Undermine Women of Color

Speculation about President Joe Biden stepping down from the...

Paramount Global’s Cultural Purge: Erasing Black History and Voices

Recently, Paramount Global removed all content from MTV News...

Weini Kelati’s Inspiring Journey from Eritrea to U.S. Olympian

Weini Kelati's inspiring journey from Eritrea to becoming an...

Forgiving what you can’t forget

- Advertisement -spot_imgspot_img

Dealing with conflict can be the hardest part of any relationship. When a partner’s actions or decisions have hurt you or betrayed your trust, it can seem impossible to forgive and move on.  But, if you plan to stay together, your forgiveness is critical to the relationship. And to you. Living with anger and resentment is unhealthy; forgiveness is as much for you as it is for your partner. You may not forget what your partner did to hurt you, but with patience and love, you can forgive what you can’t forget. Here are some tips for getting you to that point.

Have an Honest Discussion

It’s hard to come to terms with an issue if you don’t fully understand it first. The first step in moving forward is to understand what happened and why. Encourage your partner to explain why they chose the path they took. It can be difficult to have this conversation without striking out in anger, but it’s important to see your partner as someone with flaws who makes mistakes instead of someone with evil intentions.  

Handle Emotions with Intention

Relationship conflict can trigger a range of negative emotions and behaviors. Left unchecked, emotions can lead us to act in anger, saying or doing things that worsen the pain in the relationship. Take time to calm down before discussing the issue and plan to take a break if emotions start to run too high. Remember, the goal is to mend the relationship – not add fuel to the fire. 

Reframe the situation

When you’ve been hurt or betrayed, it may feel like you’re on different sides of the problem. But if you’re both committed to strengthening your relationship, you need to be a team. If you can reframe the situation as a problem you’re facing together, instead of facing off against each other, you’ll feel more united and more supported. Work towards the same goal – rebuilding your relationship – instead of against each other.

Set New Parameters

Moving forward under the same conditions may not be possible or desirable. You may need to change the conditions that contributed to the problem. You may need to set new or temporary boundaries to rebuild trust. For example, if your partner has a gambling problem, you may need to establish separate bank accounts or take over the finances until trust is reestablished.

Practice True Forgiveness

Moving forward towards forgiveness means letting go of resentment and generalizations about your partner. That’s no easy task, and you’ll have to do this part alone. You may still feel hurt or betrayed, but forgiveness is a decision you make regardless. And that just may also help you process your feelings and remember the good in your relationship. It might help to talk to a counselor.

Conflict is bound to happen in any relationship, but it doesn’t have to define the rest of your lives together. Forgiveness is essential to moving forward into a healthier relationship. It may not be easy, but it may be worth it.

Latest

Bias Unveiled: How Politics and Media Undermine Women of Color

Speculation about President Joe Biden stepping down from the...

Paramount Global’s Cultural Purge: Erasing Black History and Voices

Recently, Paramount Global removed all content from MTV News...

Weini Kelati’s Inspiring Journey from Eritrea to U.S. Olympian

Weini Kelati's inspiring journey from Eritrea to becoming an...

Annette Addo-Yobo: Miss Texas 2024 Overcomes Odds to Achieve Success

Annette Addo-Yobo of North Texas has been crowned Miss...

Newsletter

- Advertisement -spot_img

Don't miss

Women in Business: Toneka Wright

Movies empower, educate, entertain, and inspire. Romance, comedy, drama,...

Monique Rose: Cancer Survivor to Serial Entrepreneur

With a fifteen-year proven track record of increasing sales...

Being a voice for the voiceless: how a survivor wants to help victims of human trafficking

I am a 35-year-old survivor of human trafficking, and...

Women in Business Wednesday: Trina Sanchez

Izma Entertainment, founded in 2006, is a hybrid branding...

Empowered by: Atia Sherrod

Atia Sherrod is the founder of company, Lovethyself and...
Gloria Ward
Gloria Wardhttp://imlovingme.net
For more than a decade, Gloria Ward has devoted her life to helping women and women business owners around the world discover the own uniqueness and start and build their business. Considered to be the next nations leader in Self love, Self transformation and high business performance, Gloria has impacted the lives of thousands of women around the globe with her platform I’m Loving Me Project and Girls L.E.A.P. Gloria has coached and mentored many women from every walk of life- From single moms, newly divorced, and women business owners. She has been featured on the Tamron Hall show, Voyage ATL, Thrive Global, and Women Global Magazine.
spot_img

Creating Meaningful Relationships Through Sisterhood

We know you can do it on your own, but the journey is much more enjoyable with the support of others. Whether you’re starting...

3 Tips for Staying Spiritually Grounded

Living in today’s fast-paced society with so much distraction, it can be easy to get carried away and a little lost. We wake up...

Four ways to support your friends who are caretakers

A “caretaker” can mean many things. Perhaps it’s someone who is a nurse and takes care of others all day, someone caring for a...

LEAVE A REPLY

Please enter your comment!
Please enter your name here

Subscribe to Our Newslleter

Stay up-to-date with the latest news, trends, and insights by signing up for our newsletter. Join our community of informed individuals and never miss out on important information again. Sign up now!

AI FILE

JOIN GLORIA WARD FOR THIS FREE MASTERCLASS

Gloria Ward helps you strategize, innovate, grow and profit in your business. Haven’t started a business yet? No worries. Come learn how you can get your business up and running in a little as 2 hours.

Enter your email address to watch the video free

AI FILE

How to talk to your kids about Divorce
Download the E-BOOK

AI FILE

It's Not All his Fault!
Download the E-BOOK