What to say and not to say to your partner in a healthy way to get your point across …
Learning to effectively communicate your feelings can be terrifying, but it will also force you to be honest with both yourself and your partner, and the outcome is a much stronger, more authentic relationship. However, feelings can be extremely complicated, and now I must share them!?!
Sharing your feelings leaves you vulnerable, and this can be scary; also leaving you open to the possibility that you could be hurt by your partner, weather intentional or not.
However, if you use the strategies below you can create a more comfortable effective and understood communication time.
7 EFFECTIVE STRATEGIES TO COMMUNICATE YOUR FEELINGS TO YOUR PARTNER
- Understand EXACTLY what feelings you want to communicate.
Before communication begins being sure to know what you are trying to communicate to your partner, take a minute to take a walk and just think on exactly what feeling it is and what you want them to know about how you feel. You may find it easy to write it down and give supporting notes, so you have it to know exactly what you want to say.
- Be CAUTIOUS about who you share what with.
When in a newer relationship, start off slower telling your emotions not every guy you date needs to know your deepest, darkest secrets, develop your deeper feelings over time and reserved for the future.
- DO NOT REACT!
Sometimes this one can be hard. Do not ever react out of anger all you want to do is respond to God behavior from him and so it is an extremely easy to not communicate when you are angry, but it truly is not easy especially when you are angry and do not want to wait. Wait anyway.
- Do it at the right time.
Be intentional about when you plan to communicate your feelings with your partner. Never do this when you are your partner are distracted, busy, drunk, sleepy, or in a bitter mood. If you need to come together and set an appointment so both of you can have adequate time to express your feelings while given your partners undivided attention.
- Direct communication.
Be very clear and direct. Use I statement. I am feeling _________, And I would like to _____, so we can change this feeling to a much more positive one, for us both.
- Tone and Body Language.
Be aware of your tone and how you are communicating through your body movements, so you are not inadvertently sending the wrong signals and messaging?
- Listen to your partners feelings as well.
If your communication is strong and you feel that they are validated, you should want to hear your spouse and learn how they are feeling, so you can make them feel validated and have an overall feeling of acceptance.
Communicating our feelings is extremely important to human connection and overall happiness. Your partner is one of the closest and most intimate persons in your life, and communication is integral to feeling heard, understood, and overall feeling of being accepted.