For many people, decision-making doesn’t come easy — have you ever looked at a restaurant menu for thirty minutes only to change your order at the last minute? In the grand scheme of things, decisions like that are quite easy. Sometimes, you’re hit with a situation that requires you to make a difficult decision, one that involves cutting ties with someone or something, or setting boundaries.
These difficult decisions can take place in both personal and professional spheres, and coming to a conclusion is imperative for your growth and well-being. When faced with a difficult decision, it’s important to think it through, and maybe even take a few days to think about it before putting it into action. Difficult decisions often result in changes, so you want to make sure it’s the best thing for you before addressing it. These decisions can be excruciating, complex, and emotionally draining, but cutting ties with toxic people and workplaces can work wonders for your happiness and mental health.
If there’s a difficult decision weighing on your shoulders, we’ve come up with some tips that can help you navigate some common situations.
Are you stuck in an unhealthy romantic relationship?
Cutting ties with a romantic partner doesn’t mean that you hate them, it just means that you love yourself and are doing what’s best for you. If you’re stuck in a relationship with someone who is negative, controlling, or influences you to be a version of yourself that you don’t like, it might be time to cut ties. Not feeling happy around someone is a big indicator of someone you don’t need to be spending your time with. The best course of action for ending an unhealthy romantic relationship is by clearly communicating your feelings in a respectful manner. It’s important to be confident in your decision, and not to feel guilty. You have to put yourself first.
Is your workplace or business partnership toxic?
While work can’t be enjoyable 100 percent of the time, you shouldn’t feel miserable doing your job every day. But if this is the case, creating a pros and cons list of reasons to cut ties versus reasons to stay could bring you some clarity. When you aren’t happy at work, this unhappiness can impact other aspects of your life as it can harm your mental health. Sometimes quitting and leaving a workplace behind is the best option, but be sure that you do this respectfully so they can be used as a reference on your resume. If you have a business partnership that is no longer serving you, cutting ties could rid you of a professional relationship that’s holding you back from success.
Do you need to distance yourself from a negative friend or family member?
With friends and family, cutting ties requires lots of thought and care. Firstly, try putting some distance there and see if that helps. For example, if you used to see your “toxic” friend once a week, space out your visits and see if you feel differently towards them. This is the same for family members. If you are making the decision to cut off a family member or friend for good, sit them down for a chat and clearly let them know this. You can inform them of your boundaries or tell them that you won’t be answering their phone calls in the future. Doing so isn’t selfish, it’s an act of self-love and self-preservation.
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