Heartbreak. Pain. Anger. Tears. Lots and lots of tears. It comes with the territory of breakups.
After years of healing her own heartbreaks, as well as guiding dozens of private therapy clients through their own in her private therapy practice, Dr. Andrea Liner decided to start The Breakup Doc in order to offer her coaching services to people around the world. Dr. Andrea is first and foremost a licensed clinical psychologist who also loves coaching people worldwide through their breakups.
“While I love my therapy practice, moving everything online in 2020 highlighted for me that I’d like the power to reach and impact more people in new and creative ways that the field of psychology doesn’t really allow.”, Dr. Andrea says. She began her second business in 2021 and she is excited to be offering several ways to get support for anyone dealing with heartbreak.
We asked Dr. Andrea what she would say to anyone struggling through a breakup, or anyone who doesn’t want to go through the heartache again…
“My favorite piece of wisdom to anyone struggling through a breakup is that you are in complete control of every choice you make from this point forward. You can choose to move on and heal or you can choose to wallow and stay stagnant. The simple act of deciding is your biggest secret weapon. Yes, that needs to be followed up with a whole lot of action and accountability (enter a breakup coach!) but healing is not only possible, it’s inevitable when you intentionally decide to do it. And if you’ve been through a whammy of a heartache and want to avoid it in the future, the best thing you can do is to truly learn from your last relationship(s) and take the time to understand what unconscious patterns and dynamics are at play for you, as well as the contributions both you and your ex made to the outcome of the relationship. This allows you to date more intentionally in the future and likely avoid heartbreak of the same magnitude because you’re so much better equipped with both knowledge and experience.”
“you are in complete control of every choice you make from this point forward”
So, what can we learn from a breakup?
- You get to learn what you absolutely do NOT want in future relationships. We tend to be aware of these things on a very general level already, but sometimes we don’t know what we don’t want until we experience it firsthand.
- We can examine the dynamics of the relationship to get a better understanding of what kind of support and interaction we want in our next relationship. Maybe you always thought you were an “attached at the hip” type partner but after your last relationship, you realized you need someone who can also give you your space and foster your independent side. We can hone in on both what worked and what didn’t work to better inform our dating choices in the future.
- We can take an honest look in the mirror about how we operated as a partner and in the relationship and decide if there are any changes we want to make in ourselves moving forward. With each relationship, you get more and more experience being a partner and maybe some of your principles have evolved over time. Being super honest and vulnerable about our own contributions can set us up for more success later on.
The Breakup Doc is offering a free 5-day Breakup First Aid Masterclass from June 20th-24th. In it, she will be offering tons of value about how to best set yourself up for healing with both practical steps and mindset shifts, plus she’ll be talking about how to be a founding member of her brand new group coaching program! You can sign up here. If you’re looking for a higher level of private support, Dr. Andrea’s coaching packages are listed on her website and she welcomes you to book a free 20-minute consultation call if you’re not sure which package is right for you!