Repairing The Broken Heart
Life After Trauma
By Mira Cassidy
Be On The Watch
Hey Girl! You must watch the company that you keep. Now I’m not talking about individuals who participate in law breaking activities. For most of us, that’s just a given. I’m talking about staying clear from anyone who hinders your healing.
You come first! Period. Of course, I’m not encouraging vanity of selfishness. I’m saying do what you need to do to take care of you. Your environment will either help you or hurt you. This is not some simple concept. It takes work, meditation, and re-evaluation. Sometimes people who mean well are the very ones who drain us of energy. Like a blood sucking parasite, they constantly encourage us not to elevate, have peace of mind, and clear thought.
Why would anyone do such a thing? The answer is many are surround by people who care, but they themselves are broken. They cannot give you the proper advice and support that you desperately need to move forward. Broken can’t help broken, broken can’t uplift correctly, broken cannot be that calm amid the storm. Broken my want to, broken may try to, but broken cannot.
It is imperative that you monotonously select who you let into your inner circle. No, you don’t cut everyone off. You are just careful to create space between you and anyone who hinders the healing process. Also, you train yourself and learn who you can share information with and who you can’t.
At times someone may ask you a question that you never expected. However, you don’t have to give an answer. It’s okay to literally say, “I appreciate your question, but I’m going to keep that one to myself.”
It’s claimed that famous Austrian neurologist Sigmund Freud stated, “Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure you are not surround by idiots.” This is not an attack on mental health and this statement may seem cruel. The point is your environment makes all the difference. Not to mention, there have been individuals who found out that the only reason they suffer from aliments physically, mentally, and emotionally is because of their environmental influences.
Change is necessary. Keep in mind this involves getting out of your comfort zone and choosing positive uplifting people to engulf you. Does this mean you will go through a period of briefly loneliness? Possibly, and if so, it’s okay. Figure things out. You are creating a new space to exist in, and that new space is a better one that leads to a better you.