Exclusive Content:

Building Office Bonds: Rob Breakiron and Others Bridge Generational Gap with Taylor Swift Fandom

At KPMG, Rob Breakiron, a 45-year-old managing director, has...

Caught on Camera: Diddy Issues Apology After Video Shows Assault on Cassie Ventura

Sean "Diddy" Combs apologized on Sunday for assaulting his...

Miss USA and Miss Teen USA Resign Abruptly: Unpacking the Challenges of Modern Beauty Pageants

The abrupt resignations of Miss USA and Miss Teen...

Stop Searching For Confidence

- Advertisement -spot_imgspot_img

By: Ellie Curry

I remember hearing from a family member growing up that someday I was going to be so confident. A well-intentioned statement left a thought in my young mind … does that mean I am not confident right now? And if I am not confident right now, then how do I get confident. 

For the majority of my life, I spent it thinking confidence was something outside myself. It was something I had to strive for, fight for, change for.  I dyed my hair, I renounced everything I loved, I was on the constant search but all this did was leave me feeling even more hollow, even more, disconnected from confidence. 

Have you ever felt that way? That confidence was something other people had, and you may have even thought to yourself I could have to it once I get my dream job, or once I get a boyfriend, or once I finally lose the weight! However, confidence is not something we obtain from external things. It is actually a feeling we can give to ourselves whenever we want. 

Confidence Comes From Within

It took me a while but finally, I realized I was never going to achieve lasting confidence from something external. Confidence was actually a state of mind. Something that I could create no matter what my external circumstances were. 

You may have experienced this, you thought for a long time once I have my dream job then everything will be okay. So you work your butt off and you finally get the dream job, but life stays the same … why? Because your thoughts, feelings, and perspective stayed the same. You didn’t change from within. 

Confidence is Built Through Love 

So as I was trying to find confidence, I started to hate myself through the process. I stopped listening to my intuition and start to try to mimic other people instead. I would look to a woman I thought had confidence and then try to act like her. This was damaging. Because if you really want to be confident in yourself, you have to learn how to love and celebrate yourself. It is about living for joy and happiness. This includes making sure you are doing things in life that you love. This includes learning how to trust and respect yourself. 

Showing Up Confident Everyday 

To show up confident every day you will need to learn how to become your own best friend. You will need to learn how to have your own back. You will learn how to support yourself in a way that helps you thrive instead of bringing yourself down. 

Confidence is a state of mind, that once you tap into it can take you anywhere you want to go. 

Latest

Building Office Bonds: Rob Breakiron and Others Bridge Generational Gap with Taylor Swift Fandom

At KPMG, Rob Breakiron, a 45-year-old managing director, has...

Caught on Camera: Diddy Issues Apology After Video Shows Assault on Cassie Ventura

Sean "Diddy" Combs apologized on Sunday for assaulting his...

Met Gala 2024: Fashion Extravaganza Highlights

The Met Gala, NYC's ultimate fashion bash, once again...

Newsletter

- Advertisement -spot_img

Don't miss

Women in Business: Toneka Wright

Movies empower, educate, entertain, and inspire. Romance, comedy, drama,...

Monique Rose: Cancer Survivor to Serial Entrepreneur

With a fifteen-year proven track record of increasing sales...

Being a voice for the voiceless: how a survivor wants to help victims of human trafficking

I am a 35-year-old survivor of human trafficking, and...

Women in Business Wednesday: Trina Sanchez

Izma Entertainment, founded in 2006, is a hybrid branding...

Empowered by: Atia Sherrod

Atia Sherrod is the founder of company, Lovethyself and...
spot_img

Ways to Show Up in Love While Honoring Yourself

Showing up for and honoring yourself is basically another way of loving yourself -- and there’s a lot to love! Being your own biggest fan and supporter is an uncomplicated way to practice self-love.

Heal Your Way To Love Through Self-Love

The saying “You can’t love other people until you love yourself” is popular for good reason -- because it’s true! Falling in love with yourself can open many doors in one’s personal development and professional life.

The Art of Reinvention: Creating a Renewed You in the Upcoming Year

Are you ready to welcome the new year with open arms and an open heart? It's that time again when we reflect on our...

LEAVE A REPLY

Please enter your comment!
Please enter your name here

Subscribe to Our Newslleter

Stay up-to-date with the latest news, trends, and insights by signing up for our newsletter. Join our community of informed individuals and never miss out on important information again. Sign up now!

AI FILE

JOIN GLORIA WARD FOR THIS FREE MASTERCLASS

Gloria Ward helps you strategize, innovate, grow and profit in your business. Haven’t started a business yet? No worries. Come learn how you can get your business up and running in a little as 2 hours.

Enter your email address to watch the video free

AI FILE

How to talk to your kids about Divorce
Download the E-BOOK

AI FILE

It's Not All his Fault!
Download the E-BOOK